Un-Do the Negative Self-talk of Failing
Failure is a part of everyone’s story when starting out. From Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx to Jeff Bezos the founder of Amazon, failure happens daily, to everyone. I definitely fail daily! And once you do it over and over, it becomes something that is not such a big deal because you know there will be another tomorrow, and a chance to try it again. But what if fear gets in your way of an even beginning? Read on to discover what to do when fear takes a hold and happens to you.
Does this sound familiar?
Is this going to be the one? The one failure I’m not going to recover from? It is almost easier to not try at all than it is to try and feel that pain of failure and might break you.
What if I try and it doesn’t work out?! Is it worse just trying and not working out?!
That’s the true fear that gets in the way so many people when starting anything new! In this article, I want to share a few tips to help better digest and deal with this fear and the failures you will have along the way.
Sunshine & Unicorns Turning Into …
We have all been there. At the beginning of anything new, it feels magical! From a new relationship to a new adventure, the beginning can feel like sunshine, butterflies, and unicorns until you fall down. Your first fall is going to suck, and suck bad! It will probably be really painful and might break you a bit. Own that pain and feel it!
Once you have really felt that pain, you have a choice. The choice to allow that pain and fear of falling again to totally rule you and run you down or dust off the dirt and choose to focus on what you want and how to get back to the sunshine and unicorns. There is no time limit on how long you can stay in the pain, stay there as long as you need to. Just know that if you try to ignore that feeling it will not help you to grow either.
Feel the crap and pain, and then choose how you want to get back to the feeling good about this process.
Flex Your Bravery
When was the last time you flexed a muscle or worked out in a totally different way? I know when I try a new workout at the gym I might be soar in a new way for a few days. Bravery is like a muscle. Once you start being brave it takes time of pain and tenderness to get used to it. Your bravery muscle gets stronger and more developed and you don’t get freaked out when you work it out over and over. You know what to expect.
How do you begin to start to work out your bravery muscle? It starts with taking risks.
Once you start taking risks you will fail. Don’t worry that is normal and we all fail more as we take risks more. You build up that bravery muscle each time you fail and notice how it isn’t as bad as you might have made up in your mind. Think about how you can take a risk in your private practice today!
Building Your Hack For Getting Over Failure
Failure is going to be a part of your story! As a business coach for numerous dietitians and clinicians, clinicians I have seen and heard a ton of failure stories and had a ton of my own.
The best trick for all the failures you will have is to have a hack to help you get over them and keep moving forward. Here are my favorite hacks that have helped me and all my business coaching clients.
- Set A Time Period – give yourself a day or two to sit in the hurt and pain of failing. Allowing space and time to feel the hurt allows you to breathe, and also creates an endpoint to the pain and when you need to move on! It hurts; it never hurts any less, but your recovery time will go down
- Talk About It – either with your business coach, mastermind group, partner, whomever. – Talk about this failure. This chatting and grieving the pain helps to get it out and makes it not as big a deal. The other nice part of talking about it with others is they might see another side of the failure that you missed that might help you to grow and learn from the experience even more.
- Question Yourself – after your time of feeling the pain and talking with your business coach then spend time asking yourself a few questions about what happened and how you want to move forward. Sometimes this time set aside to ask yourself questions can be the greatest use of time.
We all fail every day in some form or fashion. Taking the negativity out of the idea of failure helps you to move forward in your private practice daily.
You want to learn from and celebrate failures because it means you are trying. One of my favorite sayings I have heard is that in every situation you can either succeed or fail and out of failure you learn to keep growing.
So…. How did you fail today? And more importantly, what are you going to do about it?
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Adrien Paczosa is a Registered and Licensed Dietitian practicing in Austin, Texas and the surrounding counties.
She is the founder of Fearless Practitioners, the division of her business that offers training to dietitians and wellness professionals and I Live Well Nutrition her Dietitian practice started in 2007. In 2015 Adrien launched Fearless Practitioners to help other Dietitians and Wellness Professionals build and grow their own private practices.